In a position of leadership in a mainly male dominated industry, I feel very lucky to not have experienced the feeling of inequality in the workplace very often, and when I have, I am proud to have shown the resilience to deal with it. So, I guess you could say, my story is more of a success one that I am happy to share.
At 16 my “dream” career began with education & qualifications in the equestrian world. Training was tough (as were the living conditions!) my boss was a strict ex-military man who had served in the cavalry & demanded very high standards, respect & dedication. I progressed on to become his head trainer & yard manager. Although his “management” styles would not be tolerated in today’s society, I do believe that my determination & resilience began right there which has driven me through my working life, and for that, I am thankful.
Fast forward to where we are now & I reflect over the years of my position at the Waterfront with the SU. The music industry is a very male dominated world, and not one for the faint hearted at times! On my 1st weekend, some of the security team joked with me that a bet had been put on as to how long I would last here (I’d love to know now what the longest was!!) maybe that determination kicked in, because here I still am 22 years later!
I have too many experiences & stories to write here, and it’s been quite the journey. As a female in a mainly male working environment, I have built relationships with other managers, colleagues & a large security team who I can honestly say have been amazing to work with. I truly feel & value their support & that I can talk openly & honestly to each & every one of them. The people you work closely with is the difference between appreciating who you are & what you are about, to those who don’t get the chance to know the real you. It’s very easy to judge someone & form opinions. Any inequality I have experienced in this industry has been from those who pass through our venue & don’t understand me as a person, just a female.
One story that springs to mind is of a heated confrontation with a very well-known artist who wasn’t getting his own way, threating to cancel the gig & tried to belittle me in front of his crew by calling me a sassy little girl (those who know me would maybe agree!!) but, because my team know me & how I work, I had them right behind me. My security manager gave me a pep talk & some advice on how to strengthen my position in the situation & I managed to confidently stand my ground. And yes... the gig went ahead!
Only the other day a guest of an artist called me “Sweetheart” in a very derogatory tone. I guess I will be subjected to those behaviours from time to time but now I have the confidence to be able to reply & the resilience to not take it personally, it is their downfall not mine.
When I think of Woman’s History Month and equality, I reflect to when I worked overseas & experienced different cultures. I feel very lucky to live where women are largely accepted in society as equals. There is still a way to go in some instances however my thoughts go out to those in cultures who are suffering & unable to enjoy basic life experiences that we take for granted such as freedom of choice, education or speech.
The advice I would give to any female who would like to progress in the music industry to a position of leadership, is to get to know your colleagues, listen to them & treat them as you would like to be treated yourself. Learn how you can strengthen your resilience by pushing yourself out of your comfort zone now & then. Have a female in another department who you can off-load to over a coffee, or glass of wine (you know who you are and thank you!!) it’s ok to show a bit of vulnerability at times. Above all, be real to yourself, go for what you want, don’t be afraid to take risks & show what you have to offer – don’t let people judge your female book by it’s cover!!